Two under two… they said it would be hard. I didn’t know it would be THIS hard.
Our 5-day-old son is home. The birth was a smooth induction with pitocin and unmedicated vaginal delivery at 39 weeks, but things went south pretty quickly after that.
First I got some kind of eye infection while in the hospital that made my left eye itchy, red and gooey with green/yellow discharge, which they never gave me anything for (we asked for a doctor to see it, but they never came), and it spread to the other eye yesterday. Then I got a sore throat hours after delivery, with cold symptoms that persisted and developed into a sinus infection.
Breastfeeding was sort of going okay, as baby did latch, but my milk refused to come in because I was sick and because baby was very bad at getting milk out. He would nurse for 6 hours straight, and seemed like he was getting enough, but as it turns out he wasn’t getting much at all. The nurses at the hospital didn’t notice the bad signs. When I pumped (I did so exclusively with the first for 6 months because of bad latch and tongue-tie) I got less than 1/4 oz, and he was obviously crying for more food. So finally I broke down and supplemented with formula, which made me feel terrible. But it was good to do that before he lost more weight and got more dehydrated, because baby was taking in literally 2+ oz. every 2 hours with supplementation.
Yesterday my uterus started hurting, and I have a history of uterine infections/endometritis after miscarriages and delivery (one landed me in the hospital hooked up to IV antibiotics for 3 days). I was getting no sleep since baby was born, maybe 2-3 hours a day, on top of the other illnesses, so my body was just having a horrible time recovering. My husband took me to the instacare, and thankfully they took me seriously and gave me two different antibiotics as well as an antibiotic shot. I also got clogged ducts that probably would have turned into mastitis if I didn’t get on the antibiotics.
My mother-in-law is living with us for a month to help out, and our 1st was going to daycare so we could focus on the baby brother. MIL got the same awful infection the day after I gave birth, lost her voice, and went on antibiotics. She isn’t in the best of health and is immuno-compromised, so she couldn’t help out as much. She also can’t do any childcare at night.
On top of all that, Aidan who is 21-month-old and normally pretty easygoing, has hand mouth and foot disease — again! He got it from daycare a few months ago and had such a terrible episode of not eating and drinking. Even though you’re not supposed to get it again, this time it’s apparently a different strain of the virus. It’s even worse this time, with more rashes all over his body, and he is distraught. So now he is staying home because daycare won’t take him, and we have to keep him separated from our newborn.
Thankfully these are all things we can recover from, but with such a young baby it’s too easy to land in the ER. We’re all stressed out, tired, sleep-deprived, and have no time. I was on the edge of breakdown, but at least I managed to get some sleep last night with my husband’s help. This morning I lost my voice, but at least my eyes are no longer itchy, red and swollen, and my throat and uterus hurt less. I also pumped 3oz total from both sides, so I can supplement less. But my husband has had to take off too many days and will go back to work tomorrow. I won’t get much help tonight…
The newborn phase sucks when you’re all sick!