Browsing the archives for the Men & Women category
2011
14
Nov
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Badger has an interesting post about the “alpha-beta paradigm.” I’ve posted on this subject before, and in that post I said the distinction was simplistic. I still think so, but I’ve come to accept the concepts as useful. I like what Athol Kay has written about alpha and beta as coexisting and orthogonal traits. I [...]
2011
12
Nov
Follow the trail of money. Where does it flow? Humans are egoistic, status-oriented creatures. Women buy things to denote higher status among female peer groups, and they want high-status men. Men, in turn, buy things to denote higher status, to impress women and compete for status among men. The markets want the general population to [...]
2011
12
Nov
Okay, here goes part 1. My ideas on how to make a man fall in love with you without sex. Or… just theories for how men tend to fall in love. The guys can tell me if these theories are completely BS. 1) The first is obvious. Gorgeous good looks. Hot body. Beautiful face. Luscious [...]
2011
11
Nov
This is something I had written as an ideal to aspire to. I have been failing at being accepting more than usual lately, and this serves as a fresh reminder. In the most commonly used definition, to accept means to approve, to consent, or to react to something in a positive manner. To accept an [...]
2011
9
Nov
The 20s are formative years during which people are choosing life paths. People come together and drift apart. The bonds formed can be strong, or they can be more transient, as people are still discovering themselves and forging their adult identities. I know a number of men and women in their 20s. A lot of [...]
2011
28
Apr
The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator stuff appears to be quite accurate. At least, it is an interesting way to see how different people approach the world. My husband and I are both INFJs. When I did some more research into the subject, I found out that our type is generally quite rare, especially among men. Only [...]
2010
8
Dec
Oneitis is not love. Love might on the surface seem to have similarities, but it is fundamentally different. Oneitis is clingy, obsessive and unattractive, whereas love is liberating, uplifting and attractive. Admittedly both qualities can exhibit at the same time in a relationship, but emotionally balanced individuals would understand to reign in their more compulsive [...]
2010
7
Dec
I haven’t always been the best cook. When I was 10, I was terrified and teary-eyed as my mom forced me to learn how to light a gas stove with matches. I’ve microwaved metal, burnt toast, and made a total mess in the kitchen. But everybody is a noob in the beginning. I grew up [...]
2010
25
Jun
Imagine the woman as an electrical outlet and the man as an electronic device. The woman is the passive energy giver, while the man is the active energy taker. If there is no cord or connection, no amount of electricity will do either any good. If the cord is not correctly plugged in, the electrical [...]
2010
22
Jun
I have not been married for long to C. We’ve only been married for three months, and for half of that time I’ve been pregnant. Thus I do not claim to be an expert on long-term marital relations. Certainly, in day-to-day life, I have struggled with many things and continue to do so. Marriage is [...]